This morning I decided to run a one-sided social experiment – would it create a heaven or would we have a run-in? I decided to hide my partner’s phone tablet and laptop, just for the morning to see if he could manage and to see if life could be improved. At 8.30 JP was still asleep. I felt a bit calmer at the prospect of the said items being out of sight.
Just after 9 O’clock I awoke JP and said we could do a yoga class later. I though it was a good idea to have no social media until we got back. JP had a bit of a paddy and said “it’s how I calm my brain” but then he was okay and tried to help me to calm down by getting me to count my breaths. I talked about how the way we are doing things is not working as well as it could as we are both suffering with mental health problems, I know we always will be but just maybe things could be less severe. I went on to say you can read your book or the newspaper. I made him a coffee and a bowl of p”orridge and said he could choose which radio station he listened to. JP tuned into BBC radio 5 live with Nicky Campbell. They were talking about intimate cosmetic surgery and I decided to send them a tweet saying what a sad state of affairs. I was so glad that JP had tuned in . I commented that it was like The Good Old days when we would listen to the radio and also watch The Wright Stuff on TV.
I was so glad that he was okay with what I had done, he didn’t say anything to me so I am guessing that I had explained myself. Mind you, we have had a difficult week as my mood has been all over the place and JP got it in the neck. He has been so good with me this week and supported me. It hardly seems fair that I should be doing this.
I got JP’s clothes together. JP took hold of me and tried to help me with my breathing by counting as I tried to follow his instruction. He is always caring and supportive but this felt better. I had Classic FM on in the kitchen. JP listened to the radio whilst he was having a bath. I glanced at him gesticulating with the presenter, He often does this when we are walking and I laugh and say to him who are you talking to.
JP seemed to be doing well. I was still stressed, I checked the timetable and realized that we were too late for the yoga class as it started at 10 and not 11 as I thought it was. JP had said he was happy to do the yoga class with me. Anyhow I persuaded him to try a virtual cycling class at 12 instead. I got even more stressed out as my plans had changed, JP seemed okay with it. So I thought right come on I need to focus on what I can do instead, I just pottered about in the garden, which is what I do a lot of the time. My house is a bombsite but I try to switch off from it. JP read his book and listened to the radio, we had BBC radio 6 music on in the kitchen.
Anyhow we went to our cycling class at the local leisure centre. We were the only ones in the class. We really enjoyed it. We had a look at the new swimming pool. JP was really impressed. It felt so good that we were almost tech free and enjoying each others company even more.
JP didn’t seem in a rush to get on his phone. We went home to have some lunch and JP had a look on social media. He said he had ‘liked’ the comment I had put on my twitter account.
In the afternoon we visited my parents. We took our dog Patrick who loves to visit them and Lucy their Westie. I helped with a bit of gardening and JP read his book in the kitchen and probably went on his phone. We had a lovely day, I felt different somehow, sort of reconnected and more grounded.
Anyhow, here I am writing on my laptop and no doubt I shall be looking on Facebook, twitter and then checking my emails shortly.
TTFN Love Pix Xxx